Ms. Aria

Adult Disciplinarian



About Adult Discipline...

Adult Discipline, (or Spanking Therapy, Corporal Punishment, Mentoring, whatever term you prefer -- they're all basically interchangeable), is a form of behavior modification that can be extremely effective in helping you to:

* change destructive or unproductive behavior patterns

* relieve feelings of guilt or anxiety

* motivate you to achieve specific goals

* develop a stronger sense of self-discipline & accountability

Adult discipline is not for everyone, but for those who feel a need for it & respond to it, discipline therapy can be a powerful motivational tool. If you are one of the (many) people who are drawn to it, you already know (or at least suspect) it. Maybe you have known what you need for a long time, or maybe you are newly discovering this. Either way, you might be confused, but there's no reason to feel embarrassed or ashamed -- there are lots of people who, like you, feel that something about being disciplined speaks to something in them & answers a need that more conventional forms of counselling may not reach.

One word of caution: adult discipline can be a wonderful tool for relieving feelings of guilt or depression, but it is not meant to be a substitute for professional counselling if that's what is needed. Many times, discipline therapy is the right answer. Other times, it is only a temporary band-aid & I would then strongly urge those clients to contact a licensed therapist.


What adult discipline does is create a structured situation in which you are held accountable for your actions. Let's say, for example, you have a problem with impulse spending or eating too much junk food. You constantly promise yourself to be more responsible, but you don't seem to have the willpower.  Sure, there are consequences -- your steadily growing credit card debt or waistline, for example -- but it's easy enough to push your awareness of those consequences to the back of your mind to be dealt with "tomorrow.".

While it's easy to break promises made to yourself, it's much harder to break promises made to someone else who will hold you accountable, not accept excuses (no matter how creative), & administer non-negotiable punishment as a consequence of your actions.

That's where I come in. Once we agree on which issues you need to be held accountable for, my role is to act as your externalized conscience -- just think of me as Jiminy Cricket with a paddle. Once you know that buying or eating that (insert temptation here) will have very specific, painful results, it becomes much easier to stick to your resolutions.

There are always reasons, causes, triggers, etc. for behavior issues. Few issues are simple in origin. However, spanking therapy deals mostly with effect rather than cause. Whatever the reason or reasons may be for your difficulty in achieving your goals, the bottom line (no pun intended) is this: stick to your resolution or you get spanked. Hard. That's all there is to it. Remember how simple rules were when you were a child? 

It's amazing how effective such a simple system can be! As you reach for that credit card, the memory of how sore you were for three or four days after your last session can be a great deterent. The difference is that you will let yourself get away with breaking resolutions -- I won't. That's what I'm here for.

Okay, so you've either recently realized or have known for a long time that discipline is something you need (or at least need to try.) Now what? If you're lucky enough to have a husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, or friend who understands what you're talking about & is willing to act as your disciplinarian, problem solved!

For most people, it isn't that easy. Either your husband or wife is uncomfortable with the role or can't quite see it as anything other than kinky foreplay, or you wouldn't feel comfortable about approaching someone you know, or you don't know anyone you would trust to handle the situation the right way... That's why people like me are out here.

Finding a disciplinarian is not always a simple thing. For one thing, spanking therapy is not (yet) a widely recognized practice. For another, often the only people you can find who offer spankings are either professional dominatrices or men with spanking fetishes who will be only too glad to accomodate young women under the guise of providing therapy.

Dommes who work out of a dungeon setting might be experts at spanking & paddling, but if you're simply looking for a genuine accountability spanking, or just don't want the whole leather & chains environment, that might not be a comfortable option.

You've probably checked out several discipline sites already. Most of the ads you've seen offering free spankings were probably posted by men. I know it must really reaffirm your faith in humanity to find so many altruistic guys out there who want to help you, a total stranger, purely out of the goodness of their hearts. The fact that many of these men only offer their altruistic services to young women with certain physical characteristics should raise a red flag, as well.

How many psychologists, physical therapists, & dentists do you know of who see their patients for free -- but only if their patients are attractive females?

Now, if you're looking for the other kind of spanking -- sexual, rather than therapeutic -- that's entirely different, & you should have no problem finding someone with whom to play & swap fetishes. But finding someone who has no private agenda of their own & will deal with discipline strictly as therapy is much harder to find.

And to women: I consider it important to provide women with a female disciplinarian to work with, eliminating the risk of meeting with a male "therapist" who might a) have his own sexual agenda, b) not be safe once you are alone with him & in a vulnerable position, & c) make your husband or boyfriend uncomfortable (perhaps justifiably) with the whole situation.

I apologize to all the legitimate, honest male disciplinarians out there -- yes, there are many of you, I know, & I don't mean to imply that all male spankers are untrustworthy; I know of several & have heard secondhand of many, many more who are exactly who & what they claim to be. Unfortunately, there are also many fakes & players. Take it up with them if you have a problem with my attitude...

I do work with one male disciplinarian whom I know well & can confidently vouch for, so if you do prefer a man, he is available to either do sessions alone or with me -- he works with women, only.